When we have a long-standing habit of self-judgment and we hold onto a particular story of ourselves it turns out to be negative of who we are. I find being kind to myself odd and anxiety-provoking. Do we struggle with self-compassion? If I was in a classroom and the teacher asked this question my hand […]

I learned during my Recovery and all the trainings I participated in the importance of “High Self-Esteem” and I have repeated the same thing to other people. Why is this approach so common in our lives? When I get roped into the, “I am not good enough story”, this does not increase my self-esteem. I

During this time of year, many of us worry, ruminate, or obsess about the goals we want to set for 2024. Recurring memories from the past can also hook us. We either obey (give them all our attention missing out on the here and now) or struggle (using all the usual methods, with usual consequences).

Today I met with my therapist for our monthly session. When I began treatment several years ago I developed a treatment plan to help address my mental health condition and trauma. With 2023 coming to an end I wanted to review and update my treatment plan with my therapist. After considerable thought and dialogue, I

Four weeks ago my wife came down with a nasty cold. She had a harsh cough, congestion, and little energy. I was diligently praying I would not succumb to a similar fate. My hope was dashed a week later as my wife continued to struggle. I woke up on a Friday morning with a scratchy

I was invited to a book club sponsored by our parish priest Father Tom Krieg several months ago. The group of about a dozen people read my book titled, “SuperHuman Being.” The questions centered around my history of a mental health challenge and what role God is having in my healing. I had several green

Christmas has come and gone. We now turn our attention to the New Year (Catholics celebrate the Christmas season from December 25, 2023 – January 8, 2024). During this time a mix of emotions arises for many of us to circumstances that occurred in the last year or even longer. For instance; the loss of

Due to Christmas and New Year’s falling on the next two Mondays, there will be no blog posts on those days. A few times within the past week the topic of self-care has stimulated conversations with people in my support network. I am curious if it has anything to do with the events in our

My wife and I enjoy a regular prayer routine before laying our heads down for rest. We will celebrate our ninth wedding anniversary. I am unsure when we started our nightly prayers in our marriage. The first thing we do is acknowledge any blessings that come our way during the day. These moments are special

Kwik Trip is a local gas station and convenience store in our area. They are predominately located throughout the Midwest. One of their marketing strategies is to tell us to feed our physical Urges. From time to time I admit I have a hankering for a hot cup of coffee from Kwik Trip. Urges often