Today is my mom’s eighty-third birthday. Growing up, we celebrated Mother’s Day and her birthday on the same day. I wonder if it was a bummer for Mom. Instead of getting two separate gifts from me, she received one.
After she died in June of 2021, my father, my wife, and I contemplated how to utilize the money generously given to us by families and friends from the funeral. We created a flower garden in our front yard surrounding the flag pole (see attached).
Mom suffered for most of her adult life from a bipolar disorder. She relied on the spiritual healing power of God to get through difficult periods in her life. This year, my wife refurbished a statue of Mary and placed it in the flower garden. Mom had a special relationship with Mary. She did not worship Mary but considered her a role model for being a Mother. Mom meditated by regularly saying the rosary.
The night Mom died, they found her lying flat on her back with her hands crossed over her abdomen. She had a rosary wrapped around her fingers. Staff told us when she went to bed, the rosary was on the nightstand. The beads were out of her reach. It is a mystery how she maneuvered herself to secure the rosary.
This is a period to celebrate our mothers, even those no longer with us. If we hold anger or bitterness toward our mothers, how can we use the steps of Recovery to let go and heal? I realize the difficulty. I once held on to anger and bitterness because I did not think she protected me as a child.
Loving and respecting our mothers is incredibly healing. It brought me some peace on my road to Recovery.
SuperHuman Being
Peace
Larry
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