Jamie Kern Lima wrote a book titled, “Worthy” https://worthybook.com/ I recently heard her speak virtually at the Global Leadership Summit. She asked us if we have ever sabotaged ourselves from reaching a goal or had a goal we wanted to achieve but never went for it. Could this be tied to our self-worth?
She said there are two things she knows for sure: 1. God can dream bigger dreams than we can ourselves. 2. When it comes to life you can reach your dream because “We are worthy”.
She shared three tools out of 24 from her book that can build unshakeable worth for us. First, understand the difference between self-confidence and self-worth. Self-confidence is about building our skills in a particular area of our lives. An example is going to school to get a degree and land a job. Self-worth is a deep internal thing. You pursue applying for 15 different jobs and receive no offers. This is not an indictment on who we are as a person. It is important to remember the external world can shake our self-confidence but we determine our worthiness.
Second, it is important we change our relationship with rejection. When we do this we can change our lives. What is the first thought in our heads when we face rejection? This is our current definition of failure.
When we create new meaning to old thinking we change our life. Instead of being afraid to move forward with something reframe it by saying “I am one of the brave ones to do something”. What would we do if we had no fear of rejection or failure?
Third, show up (authentic self) to be who we are – “I am first” We all have a unique fingerprint no one in the world has the same one. When we take care of ourselves first we can then pour into others. When we fly on an airplane we are told to put our masks on first before helping someone else.
Most people will not cheer us on until we make it. For this reason, building our self-worth, in the long run, pays more dividends than attaining self-confidence.
Peace
Larry
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