There have been many lessons I have learned during my Recovery. One of the greatest gifts has been my wife’s steady love and support through each stage of healing.
When my emotions feel strong and overwhelming, and my thoughts become cloudy, I do not make life-changing decisions. Instead, I stay aware of the kind of action I hope to take. I wait. I trust that clarity will come in time.
I lean on my wife’s love to help me make choices that support my Recovery. She is honest with me when my view of reality becomes unclear. Her gentle guidance reminds me to pause, take a timeout, and step back from my feelings. That pause helps me choose in a way that honors my mind, heart, and soul.
Several years ago, I was in a very dark place. I believed I was not good enough at my work and thought I needed to change my career. Those thoughts were filled with guilt, shame, and fear. I was focused on what was happening around me and not on what was happening inside me.
My wife encouraged me to wait until I was in a healthier emotional space before making any decisions. That was exactly what I needed to hear. Looking back now, I see how deep her wisdom was. If I had acted on those heavy feelings, regret would have followed me.
In that season, my wife was like a good spirit, guiding me toward a choice that fit my whole self. I knew staying in my career was the right decision because it brought me peace.
Have you had a similar experience in your life? If so, I would love to hear about it. I believe I am not alone on this path.
